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Last week, I had the privilege of leading a workshop for a women’s church group called Listening to Your Body: Why We Shift into Protection—and How to Restore Peace. What I shared wasn’t just theory. It was my story. How My Nervous System Learned to Protect Me My parents divorced when I was three years old. There were more marriages and more divorces after that. Alcoholism shaped much of my childhood environment. Stability was unpredictable. Emotional safety was inconsistent.

If you struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, trauma, or self-doubt, you may have noticed a pattern of thoughts that keep you feeling stuck. Thoughts like: “I’m just not good at this.” “It’s too late for me.” “I always fail.” “I can’t change.” These beliefs often stem from what psychologists call a fixed mindset  — and understanding this concept can be life-changing. For clients seeking therapy for anxiety, trauma, perfectionism, or life transitions, learning the difference be

Many women feel stuck in repeating relationship patterns—overhelping, feeling blamed, or carrying emotional weight that never seems to lift. If you often leave conversations feeling drained or frustrated, the Drama Triangle  may be at play. The Drama Triangle, developed by Stephen Karpman , describes three common roles people fall into during stress or conflict: Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor . While these roles are often unconscious, they can keep women stuck in unhealthy d

By Lisa Lewis, Therapist for Midlife and Empty Nest Women In my last blog post, Being a Victim of Circumstance: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Life , I talked about how we often attribute our feelings and results to the situations around us. That post introduced the idea that what truly impacts our experience isn’t the circumstance itself — it’s our thoughts  about it. This week, we’re taking that concept a step further by diving deeper into understanding our thou